Jennifer Lopez Doesn’t Believe Any Of Her Exes “Truly Loved” Her
Serial lover Jennifer Lopez was asked if she’d ever been truly loved, and the answer will shock you.
“No,” she replied when asked by Howard Stern if she thinks she’s ever “truly been loved” during her recent appearance on The Howard Stern Show. Lopez did admit, however, that she has experienced truly loving someone else.
The mother of two explained, “What I learned, it’s not that I’m not lovable — it’s that they’re not capable. … They don’t have it in them.” Lopez confessed, “They gave me what they had. They gave me all of it, every time. All the rings, all the things I could ever want. The houses, the rings, the marriage. All of it.”
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Part of the issue was also that Lopez “didn’t love myself” in those relationships. The Kiss Of The Spider Woman actress has been married and divorced four times, with the most recent instance being Ben Affleck, whom she reunited with 20 years after they first met and dated. She has 17-year-old twins, Max and Emme, with ex-husband Marc Anthony.
Lopez later admitted that her last divorce was “the best thing that ever happened to me.” She explained, “Because it really made me journey into— I mean, I had a religious coach, I had a therapist, a couple’s therapist, an individual therapist, I had a coach to understand addiction. I had everything. I was like, ‘I’m gonna f**kin’ figure this s**t out if it kills me.’”
The 56-year-old has learned that the “core of the thing is you — it’s nobody else,” adding, “Now I’m able to sit here in a much more self-assured, self-aware way of the things that have happened to me, whether my mother, my father, in my own life, how I learned to love, how I felt neglected — all the things that are in your head as a person — and know who I am and just really appreciate that person.”
Lopez told Stern that she’s now “really comfortable and good in being myself, all the good parts and all the kind of complicated things.” She shared that she’s never experienced that fully in her past relationships.
Earlier this month, she and Affleck reunited at the New York premiere of her latest film (which he was a producer on). Despite the run-in, a source confirmed that there won’t be a “romantic reunion” between them, but noted that the former pair are “in a really good place.”
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Back in March, Affleck told GQ that Lopez is “somebody I have a lot of respect for” and said that “no scandal, no soap opera, no intrigue” led to their divorce.
As far as future relationships are concerned, Lopez hinted at keeping those private.
